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Lessons from the 27th Rotation Around the Sun

Above all, I have learned that it is through reflection and action that my imposter syndrome (that is so often imposed on me than a natural locus in my body) is best remedied through being in community with and alongside others and not minimizing myself or my accomplishments. I've learned to have as much grace, as much compassion as I muster for others for myself. I've learned that the arc of the universe bends towards justice because we collectively push it towards justice - it is not a natural phenomenon. I've learned that my search, my yearning for justice and equity is more wrapped up in my own sense of spirituality, which is still in the development process (as is everything else), and my belief of interconnectedness. I've learned to protect an enduring hopefulness for a more caring, just, and thriving world while simultaneously being both impatient and restless for it. And I've learned to always center a radical love (link) in doing so <3

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My Elders: Remembering, Embodying, & Yearning

We are in the midst of holidays and coming up on more.  And it is around this time, I feel the complexity of going/being home.  I have many homes, often made up of people more so than walls.  And I am still brought back to my original home, with my family in South Florida, and really this year just feels a bit different in reflection. 

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From Treat Yo Self to Self-Treatment: Reframing the Need & Importance of Self-Care #SelfCareSA

This semester, my office colleagues and I have been reading Lipsky’s Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others. Lipsky’s work has helped me to reflect on and (un)learn ways in which I was (not) actually taking care of myself.  As my colleagues and I were discussing one of the latest chapters, a question emerged: How often do I something in the name of self-care to avoid confronting what I actually need in order to take care of myself?

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The Evolving Task of Protecting Hopefulness

In some ways, I am trying to catch my breath.  In other ways, I am trying to ground myself in my body, to reclaim my mind from what seems like a prolonged dissociation.  This election night was scary for me in many ways.  It was scary for what the outcomes on the national, state, and local levels meant for me and those who I call my kin.  Because so often rhetoric, however harmless folks may view it, has continued consequences for those most marginalized in our society.

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Pronouns II, or how others need to figure this out

Last year, I wrote about me and pronouns.  This is the next part of that story.  For some of you, this may be your first reading in how I identify and how I need to be referred to because I potentially have not felt ready to share this part yet or felt the context we inhabit together is not the "right" place for that conversation.  Lemme start the work of doing better for our relationship now: my name is Alex and I need you to use they/them/their pronouns when referring to me.

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Thinking Constellationally: An Intersectional, Integrative Analysis of the Orlando Massacre

Early Sunday evening represents a confluence of so many issues that continue to plague our collective human conscience.  I know many of them are constantly on my mind: terrorism and who is labeled as a terrorist; the continued erasure of the continued violence upon people of color, especially transgender women of color; the centrality of Whiteness in LGBTQ+ concerns and caring; the role of love as a verb to heal ourselves and each other; how we continue to center conversations about safety on individual victims and perpetrators rather than addressing the systems.

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Love has failed. Love is the answer.

This hit too close to home.  And a complicated, interconnected home.  Orlando is where both my blood and non-blood family call home.  Queer nightclubs and bars have continued to be home for me and my communities, a place where we can unapologetically be ourselves.  A place where we, especially my QTPOC kin, have organized, have liberated one another, have celebrated.  Today, our home, the safe place where we go to not be questioned, was defiled and disgraced and made to feel so unsafe.

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White folks, we can’t sit in our sadness.

...it was yet another week where violence was a theme, particularly White supremacist, cis-patriarchal violence & terror.  From the terrorism in Charleston (which took Cynthia, Susie, Ethel, Rev. DePayne, Rev. Clementa, Tywanza, Rev. Daniel, Rev. Sharonda, & Myra) to the murder of Mercedes Williamson (the 9th trans woman murdered this year in the U.S.), I was overcome with many thoughts and feelings on Thursday and Friday while trying to move.  Social media, in particular, was a huge help in staying informed and engaged while on the move.  And I as I sit here processing via writing about these intertwined violent acts, I think about how reactions and inactions have remained the same, particularly from me and my fellow White folks.

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The Quest for Community? Or what I desire in stability gets messy with my fluidity.

Back in October, Dafina-Lazarus Stewart tweeted about community.*  Ze was more specifically talking about being a part of a certain community and feeling like rejection from that community may be imminent because of other identities one many possess.  This resonated with me, so naturally we struck up a short Twitter conversation (is there short hand for this? TwitChat? Who knows).

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